The ANEW Counseling Approach to Affair Recovery

As a therapist who specializes in sex addiction, porn addiction and problematic sexual behavior I have seen the pain infidelity can cause both parties in a relationship. I understand that these issues are never easy to work through. So, I won’t pretend the road to healing is easy.

However, I have seen other couples find healing. And in relationships where both parties are completely committed to the hard work of therapy, I have seen couples work through incredibly difficult things. You have to be brave and vulnerable. Our goal in affair recovery counseling is to improve your communication, deepen your sense of connection, create a healthy sex life, and renew your sense of trust in each other. It is very important to me that both partners have a chance to address their struggles. I want both of you to leave counseling feeling like your needs were met and your need to hide the parts of yourself that make you feel uncomfortable is gone. I want you to live authentically so you can truly be the person you were meant to be.

Counseling is a Judgment-Free Zone

As a therapist, I am here to meet you in your pain. Both of you.

For counseling to be successful, you need to have a good rapport with your therapist. This is especially true in affair recovery counseling because both partners need to feel heard and understood. If you don’t feel that way when working with me, I will be happy to refer you to other counselors in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.

In a marriage, both partners must contribute to the overall success of the relationship. Healing takes both of you working together. Therefore, my goal is to connect with each of you in your pain. I know that both of you are looking for something in each other, I want to help you figure out what that is and how to help you give it to each other.  

What if we are going to get a divorce after the affair because of the infidelity?

This is a common question I am asked during affair recovery counseling. The truth is many
relationships end in a breakup or divorce when an affair, porn addiction, or other problematic sexual behaviors have been discovered.

Even if this were to happen, you don’t want to bring the pain and trauma of your past hurt into future relationships. Knowing that you did all you can do and put in the hard work during counseling can set you up to have more successful relationships down the road.

If you and your partner have already made the difficult decision to separate, then individual counseling may be a better option to help you address the behaviors that contributed to the breakup. I offer counseling at my Fort Worth clinic for problematic sexual behaviors (such as porn & sex addiction). And, I offer counseling for partners whose spouses have cheated on them.

The bottom line is that infidelity is traumatizing, and you deserve support. Through couples
therapy, marriage counseling, or individual counseling, I can help you.

Your relationship has been hurt, but you want to try to work things out.  Marriage counseling or couples therapy is often an important part of the process.  However, sometimes each of you may have some individual work to do as well if true healing is going to happen.  Therefore, at my Fort Worth, TX counseling clinic, I offer counseling services for partners struggling with sex addiction and porn addiction as well as counseling for spouses/partners who were cheated on.  I understand that these situations can be complicated. I’m here to support you on your journey to freedom and healing.