Porn. Hookups. An emotional or sexual affair. Prostitutes. Somewhere along the way, one of these transgressions disrupted your relationship.
Now, both of you feel on edge. You’re questioning yourself and each other. There’s a huge disconnect and communication feels impossible. It’s hard to understand how you even got here and you both feel angry. Conversations about the betrayal get almost nowhere.
You’re afraid that this marriage is headed for a divorce. It’s hard to imagine things will ever get better. You are tired of looking the other way, covering up your partner’s problematic sexual behavior, and being hurt by their indiscretion. However, you love your partner or spouse despite the pain their actions have caused you. You aren’t ready to give up without at least trying.
Whether you recently found out about an affair, need to process a past issue related to infidelity, or are concerned about a sexual addiction, counseling can help.
Through infidelity counseling, your relationship can heal. First, you both need to grieve the way things were. Both parties need to agree to work on this relationship and acknowledge that what happened can’t just be swept under a rug and forgotten. Your relationship has changed, and the infidelity has truly changed each one of you as individuals too. But healing can still happen.
Through couples counseling, both partners will learn to address the underlying problems. We’ll talk about both partners’ family of origin and where your beliefs about both sex and addiction come from. I’ll support each of you as you grow together developing effective communication strategies. Then, as a couple, you’ll develop healthy boundaries and begin to rebuild trust.
To truly commit to change, it takes more than just words. Trust has been broken and serious change needs to happen to save this marriage or relationship. Coming to counseling is the first step in the process of healing.
As a therapist who specializes in sex addiction, porn addiction and problematic sexual behavior I have seen the pain infidelity can cause both parties in a relationship. I understand that these issues are never easy to overcome in a marriage, so I won’t pretend the road to healing is easy.
However, I have seen other couples find healing. And in relationships where both parties are completely committed to the hard work of therapy, I have seen couples work through incredibly difficult things. Our goal in affair recovery counseling is that our work together will end in better communication, a deeper sense of connection, a healthy sex life, and a renewed sense of trust. Both partners' needs will be met and the need for lying or hiding parts of yourself will be gone.
As a therapist, I am here to meet you in your pain. Both of you.
The most important thing for counseling to work is a great rapport with your counselor. Affair and infidelity recovery needs a counselor that makes both partners feel understood. If you don't feel that way, I am happy to provide referrals to other counselors.
There are two people in the marriage who have to contribute in different ways. Healing will take both of you working on this together. My goal is to connect with each of you in your pain. Both of you are looking for something in one another, and I want to help you find what that is.
Many relationships end in a breakup or marriages in divorce when an affair, porn addiction, or other problematic sexual behaviors come into the picture. However, it’s important to know that should you get a divorce, you could easily bring the relationship issues of the current marriage into any future relationships. Even if your marriage does result in divorce, the hard work of counseling can help you with healing and set you up for future success.
Now, if you and your partner have already decided for sure to separate, individual counseling may be a better option. I offer counseling at my Fort Worth clinic for problematic sexual behaviors (such as porn & sex addiction), as well as counseling for partners whose spouses cheated on them. The bottom line is that infidelity is traumatizing, and you deserve support. Through couples therapy, marriage counseling, or individual counseling, I can help you.
Your relationship has been hurt, but you want to try to work things out. Marriage counseling or couples therapy is often an important part of the process. However, sometimes each of you may have some individual work to do as well if true healing is going to happen. Therefore, at my Fort Worth, TX counseling clinic, I offer counseling services for partners struggling with sex addiction and porn addiction as well as counseling for spouses/partners who were cheated on. I understand that these situations can be complicated. I’m here to support you on your journey to freedom and healing.