Porn. Hookups. An emotional or sexual affair. Prostitutes. Somewhere along the way, one of these transgressions disrupted your relationship.
Now, both of you feel on edge. You’re questioning yourself and each other. There’s a huge disconnect in your relationship and you cannot communicate effectively. Perhaps, you’ve tried to forgive and forget but that simply isn’t doable. Now you’re both angry and you feel lost and hopeless.
You’re afraid that this marriage is headed for a divorce. It’s hard to imagine things will ever get better. You are tired of looking the other way, covering up your partner’s problematic sexual behavior, and being hurt by their indiscretion. However, you love your partner or spouse despite the pain their actions have caused you. You aren’t ready to give up without trying.
Whether you recently found out about an affair, need to process a past issue related to infidelity, or are concerned about sexual addiction, counseling can help.
Counseling gives you the opportunity to work through your pain and heal your relationship. I approach therapy with the utmost respect for what you and your partner have been through. I know how hard it is to be vulnerable when trust has been broken and there’s anger and hostility in your relationship.
However for counseling to be successful, both parties need to agree to work on the relationship. This means acknowledging that what happened and the pain it caused cannot simply be swept under the rug and forgotten. Infidelity has changed your relationship. Furthermore, it has
changed each of you as individuals. You think and act differently now. But, healing can happen, I can show you how.
Through couples counseling, both partners will learn to address the underlying problems that contributed to the affair or affairs. We’ll talk about both partners’ families of origin and where your beliefs about both sex and addiction come from. I’ll support each of you as you grow together developing effective communication strategies. Then, as a couple, you’ll develop healthy boundaries and begin to rebuild trust.
To truly commit to change, it takes more than just words. Trust has been broken and serious change needs to happen to save this marriage or relationship. Coming to counseling is the first step in the process of healing.
As a therapist who specializes in sex addiction, porn addiction and problematic sexual behavior I have seen the pain infidelity can cause both parties in a relationship. I understand that these issues are never easy to work through. So, I won’t pretend the road to healing is easy.
However, I have seen other couples find healing. And in relationships where both parties are completely committed to the hard work of therapy, I have seen couples work through incredibly difficult things. You have to be brave and vulnerable. Our goal in affair recovery counseling is to improve your communication, deepen your sense of connection, create a healthy sex life, and renew your sense of trust in each other. It is very important to me that both partners have a chance to address their struggles. I want both of you to leave counseling feeling like your needs were met and your need to hide the parts of yourself that make you feel uncomfortable is gone. I want you to live authentically so you can truly be the person you were meant to be.
As a therapist, I am here to meet you in your pain. Both of you.
For counseling to be successful, you need to have a good rapport with your therapist. This is especially true in affair recovery counseling because both partners need to feel heard and understood. If you don’t feel that way when working with me, I will be happy to refer you to other counselors in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.
In a marriage, both partners must contribute to the overall success of the relationship. Healing takes both of you working together. Therefore, my goal is to connect with each of you in your pain. I know that both of you are looking for something in each other, I want to help you figure out what that is and how to help you give it to each other.
This is a common question I am asked during affair recovery counseling. The truth is many
relationships end in a breakup or divorce when an affair, porn addiction, or other problematic sexual behaviors have been discovered.
Even if this were to happen, you don’t want to bring the pain and trauma of your past hurt into future relationships. Knowing that you did all you can do and put in the hard work during counseling can set you up to have more successful relationships down the road.
If you and your partner have already made the difficult decision to separate, then individual counseling may be a better option to help you address the behaviors that contributed to the breakup. I offer counseling at my Fort Worth clinic for problematic sexual behaviors (such as porn & sex addiction). And, I offer counseling for partners whose spouses have cheated on them.
The bottom line is that infidelity is traumatizing, and you deserve support. Through couples
therapy, marriage counseling, or individual counseling, I can help you.
Your relationship has been hurt, but you want to try to work things out. Marriage counseling or couples therapy is often an important part of the process. However, sometimes each of you may have some individual work to do as well if true healing is going to happen. Therefore, at my Fort Worth, TX counseling clinic, I offer counseling services for partners struggling with sex addiction and porn addiction as well as counseling for spouses/partners who were cheated on. I understand that these situations can be complicated. I’m here to support you on your journey to freedom and healing.